Moving gradually towards a modern society has all its perks, but there are times when these advancements have been troublesome for some individuals of our society. I am not just talking about females here, but men too have been shamed due to the stereotype behavior and patriarchal mindset of the society.
You never know what your mainstream statements might do to somebody, emotionally and morally. Both, men and women, are equally involved in promoting these stereotypes and bullying even their own gender.
Here are some of the commonly used expressions, which are widely used in the Pakistani society without realizing how some of them can be patriarchal.
1.“Engineering larkiyo ki bass ki baat nai”
No matter if it is electric, chemical or software engineering; there will always be that one uncle, aunty or elder cousin holding you back from choosing engineering and entering into some other non-technical fields.
However, breaking all stereotypes, more and more girls are entering the field of engineering and excelling due to their impeccable technical and analytical skills.
2.“Larkiyan raaton ko akaili bhr nai jati”
A girl alone is a like an open treasure is what every girl is taught so that she does not go out independently, especially late at night.
I believe, everything done with discipline leads no chaos.
3.“Na cigarette, na drinks na parties. Yr tu larka hi hy na?”
There are still men out there who are decent and sober. Secondly, it’s a matter of personal preference. No?
4.“Dimagh kharab ho jaye ga agar zyada parh likh jaye gi to”
An educated woman can transfer her knowledge to the upcoming generation. Today every girl needs to be well-educated in order to tackle the world outside her house. Good education and degrees, achieved with dignity, bring all the respect you require. Society needs to understand this!
5.Larkiyo ko kahan ati hy sai sy driving
“Shit, larki gaari chala rai hy, pakka lagaye gi”
Sad for all the opposing parties, some women are better and calm drivers than men can ever be.
6.“Phr sy emotional breakdown? PMS to nai ho raha kahin?”
The thing that used to be between women is now being talked about openly by men too. They easily dish out this phrase on and off, whenever a girl around is being emotional. Like seriously, dude you need to get a life and worry about yourself first. Although, it is a natural phenomenon, and can sometimes cause mood swings, but that is not the reason behind the breakdown always. Why would you think women are on their periods 24/7?
7.“Itnay chotay baal? Oye tu larka hy ya larki?”
Even if you are joking, you need to stop saying that. You are not aware of how deep you can hit someone sentimentally. Girls with shorter hair are considered as tom boys usually, As its expected from our society that a girl should have Rapunzel’s hair
8. “Mard ko dard nahi hota”
Being a man doesn’t mean you can push him around or do whatever you like, thinking they won’t feel emotional about it. No! Men also have emotions exactly like women, but they tend to become less expressive.
In this world full of hate, be someone who is loving and positive. We need to stop bullying our fellow girls and boys for something they like. Only with a few word replacements, you can cause a change in someone’s life. So, make sure you are substituting with the positive ones’,hence eliminating the daily patriarchal phrases!
Lets us know in comments how you guys feel about this typical mindset 🙂